A Lifetime Commitment

August 17, 2019 0 Comments

Nancy and I just returned from a romantic overnight getaway to celebrate our 50th Anniversary. Actually, this was about our fourth big celebration, but who's counting? The lady who checked us in at the Bed and Breakfast asked us: "What is your secret to making it through fifty years of marriage?" An excellent question which I answered with one word: COMMITMENT.

All marriages have their ups and downs, their good days and bad. That is why the wedding vows say: "for better or worse"! Too many couples today base their relationship on how they "feel" on any given day--whether they feel like they are still in love. But an enduring marriage is based on absolute commitment, a pledge to remain faithful to one's partner for life, even on those days when they may not exactly feel like it.

Jesus said, "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder" (Matt. 19:6). When Nancy and I stood at that wedding altar August 16, 1969 we promised each other to "have and to hold from this day forward . . . until death do us part".

There is very little commitment to anything in this day and age, not just to marriage. I love baseball, but in today's world, players do not remain with the same team for their career, as it was in the old days. Players used to be synonymous with the team they played for during their entire career, but not any more.

The institution of marriage is under attack today like never before. For all of you who are married, my counsel to you is to stay faithful, remain loyal, be committed. That is God's will. And that is the secret to a happy and enduring relationship.

Richard Seefried
Harrisonburg, VA
Richard Seefried has a Master’s Degree in Christian Ministry, and is licensed & certified by the NCCA as a clinical pastoral counselor.